Now and then as I continue through the journey of life, I come across an event, a happening, or a circumstance that makes me pause and contemplate the ‘what if’ moments of my life. Generally speaking dwelling too much on ‘what if’ moments is not helpful, but occasionally, every now and then, they provide fruitful grist for the mill of reflection.
The latest moment to give me pause for thoughtful reflection had been brewing for a couple of days before I arrived on the Gold Coast as part of my Annual Leave. During my two nights here in my hotel room, sitting occasionally on the balcony watching the ocean in all its moody beauty, my thoughts and contemplations have drifted towards some of those ‘what if’ moments. I have wondered during that time whether I would still find myself where I am if my choices were different.
The answer to that question is as it often is: Yes. Probably. More than likely.
That may sound strange of course, but the truth is that we can never know where our lives might have led us had we made different decisions at various points. We can wonder. We can dream about possibilities. The reality is that we are where we are, and we can’t change that.
Moments like this can lead to regret about paths not chosen, opportunities not embraced, or options not explored. Sometimes that is good because it allows us to reaffirm the choices we have made, whether good, bad or indifferent, and recommit ourselves to where we are and what we are doing.
Despite the temptation to lament what might have been in contemplating these ‘what if’ moments over the last few days, I remain content with who and where I am.